Can I do this program without the other parent?

Does this program work for all ages?

What sets this program apart from a normal PET class?

Do you have any online programs I could follow?

What about discipline? Does this program talk about that?

Can you provide help on a one on one basis?

How can I manage my emotions with EFT?

Why should you focus on the positive when I want to fix the problems?

What is the Law of Attraction or Projection mean to me?

Can I do this program without the other parent being involved?

Yes.  We respect each parent's views and rights to parent according to their beliefs and values and it's fine for you to follow this program without them.  We find that when a parent follows this program (as an individual) and implements the strategies, communication between parents improves and the other parent quite often is influenced (by the positive outcomes) to change how they are approaching issues.

Does this program work for all ages?

This program is for parents of children of all ages, that's the beauty of it!  It doesn't segregate children into boxes or behaviours or even types.  The added advantage of this program is that you can apply the principles to all of life's situations including work, friends, family, extended family and so forth.   

What sets this program apart from a normal PET class?

One area that is missed by most parenting programs is understanding what makes you tick, what sets you off (when your response is excessive), why you feel hurt, misunderstood, rejected, angry and so forth.  We help you to uncover what old childhood patterns are influencing your parenting approach and if they don't work for you, how to release them once and for all.  

Do you have any online programs I could follow?

We are developing and online parenting program for parents who live outside of the capital cities and overseas.  We will let you know when it's available.  The best way to ensure you are kept inform of the progress is to sign up for our newsletters.  Click here to do that.

What about discipline? Does this program talk about that?

We will be discussing discipline and how we approach it using the Peaceful Parenting techniques.  We don't advocate hitting or spanking a child, so if you're set on that approach, you may find it helpful to have an open mind to finding other ways to get your message across.  We can help you, if you want, to release that urge as it's not very conducive to a peaceful household (expecially not for those being hit).

Can you provide help on a one on one basis?

Yes we can.  Please see our Private Sessions page for further details.

How can I manage my emotions with EFT?

Emotions are just energy within the body and since we are essentially conditioned to supress our emotions, we store them within our physical bodies until we can release them.  Sometimes we explode with anger, or cry at the drop of a hat, or get depressed or have anxiety attacks.  These extreme emotional episodes indicate that we have too much residual emotions left within our body.  Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) addresses that by tapping on the bodies energy circuits to release the emotion.  It's most effective when we are in the emotion but we can also do it after the fact (many times years after) with the same success.  By releasing this excess emotions we become more peaceful, tolerant and resilient.

Why should you focus on the positive when I want to fix the problems?

We actually need you to focus on both, however, when you can shift your attention and remain positive, you will more likely flourish as a positive influence, be able to connect more with your children and become happier.  There is a lot of research on positive psychology that indicates that positive emotions widen our range of thoughts and actions and improve problem solving.  When we are in a positive mind we are open to new ideas and new experiences and this can increase our personal reslience and give us internal resources to draw on when we are faced with challenges.  A negative mind frame can do the opposite as it puts us in victim mode.  

What is the Law of Attraction or Projection mean to me?

Here's one more reason why remaining positive and focusing on the positives of your children and partner (see previous question), the Law of Attraction basically indicates that like attracts like. Take for example social groups, people with the same interests tend to make friends and hang out together. The same goes for your partner, when you get into a relationship, you are attracted to the other because they have similar interests, qualities, beliefs and values as you do. It's a natural process and done on a very unconscious level. However, as the relationship progresses, quite often we get frustrated and annoyed by our partner's faults, behaviours and attitudes. In counselling we often look at this as a form of projection, meaning that what drives us crazy about the other person is, in some form, something we cannot look at within ourselves, so we project it out onto our partner. For example, when we see our kids as selfish and inconsiderate, and most of us have culturally been taught that this is a bad thing, we project our frustration that we too cannot be selfish and self centred (even though this is a natural instinct all of us struggle with). So in this program we look at A) what are you focusing on (as like attracts like and if we focus and see our kids as naughty, that is all we'll see) and B) what are we projecting onto our kids, what unfulfilled needs are we wanting them to provide or resent them for displaying?